Solinea, 50

I hate small talk. I like to ask questions. A LOT of questions. I like to know "people" and I want to BE known. I want to meet someone who is interested in knowing, and more importantly being able to fall in love with the "me" that is beneath the initial illusion that we all present. And I want to meet someone who is not afraid of being known either. People often underestimate howit is to be understood and still be LIKED, in spite of the shattered illusion that we all encounter at some point in the dating process. I hate being on a pedestal. I am honest and worse, trusting to my tragic detriment. I want to truly FEEL free within a relationship. But I believe most men (especially ages 40 and over) still have underlying and unconscious misogyny in their behavior from their upbringing towards women that they don't even understand that makes outspoken and intelligent women like me feel subjugated and indebted to them in personal relationships that usually gets expressed through s----lity in the relationship. (i.e. holding financial means of survival or emotional support over her head if she doesn't maintain that perfect illusion, especially when it comes to s--.) I also have extremely high expectations when it comes to respect and communication. And I WILL hold you accountable for being selfish, rude, mean, uncompromising or inconsiderate. For me to stay connected with someone, I expect a man to put his ego aside and be open to "growing" and becoming a better person, because I afford a man the same. Most say those are not unreasonable expectations to have, however, I'm still single so that should say a lot....besides the fact that I'm probably too trusting and honest, as well as disillusioned and having a low tolerance for liars and false pretenses (which is why you might be sensing some "harshness" in my tone here as well.) But based on making this profile, I'm probably too optimistic too.